There is a lie that can be told, and accepted, by someone that tells them that there is nothing that can be done about their circumstances and that it is okay to blame others for what happens to them. Have you believed this lie, or know someone who has?
Here are some of the stink’n think’n ways that might be said from someone who is stuck in the victim mindset:
“I feel locked into my life because of what others have done to me.”
“I don’t feel free to share my friends with others because someone or something ‘more interesting’ will steal them away.”
“I am quickly defeated by circumstances”
“I am fearful of what others think about me.”
“I live under condemnation.”
“I feel isolated.”
“I find comfort in being seen as the victim.”
“I have difficulty making or keeping friends.”
“I am in a constant state of doubt about God’s love for me.”
“I always seem to be in some crisis in my life.”
“I don’t deserve anything.”
“My life can’t get worse than this.”
TOGETHER helps find common ground to stand on to eliminate this lack of courage and fear. To know the truth of who you are and where you stand will set you free and stabilize you to move forward as a victor not a victim. Embrace the life-giving, freedom of these thoughts. No, actually they are more than just thoughts, they are promises to hold onto and believe:
Romans 8:37-39 “No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, Who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from His love. Death can’t, and life can’t. The angels can’t, and the demons can’t. Our fears for today, our worries about tomorrow, and even the powers of hell can’t keep God’s love away. Whether we are high above the sky or in the deepest ocean, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
1 Corinthians 10:13 “But remember that the temptations that come into your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you can’t stand up against it. When you are tempted, He will show you a way out so that you will not give in to it.”
So, share this truth with victims you know. Help them see they can be grounded, standing firm with confidence that they have a victory in their relationship with the One who overcame the source of this lie. Together with Christ and His people they can form an agreement to stop thinking this way. This internal conflict can be resolved immediately and the dispute settled permanently!
* This is part of a blog series called, Who We Are In Christ; written for Christians, sometimes called “Believers” or “followers of Jesus Christ”. An early 1st century expression was “followers of The Way”. The Way being a radical new mindset and belief system that claimed that prophecy of ancient times had been fulfilled and the Messiah had arrived to deliver people from their state of bondage and misery to a life of freedom and joy. Jesus and some of His close followers are quoted in a book called the Bible. I use references from it with my own thoughts in these writings.
